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Being Single – 7 Years In

Written on January 23, 2010 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life

I’ve been single for 7 years now.
Over the course of those years I’ve always said I would never consider getting married again.

And while this is NOT a reversal of that position, I believe I’m softening on the issue.I am near the point where I can view marriage as something positive. That hasn’t been part of my relationship-consciousness for nearly 15 years.

Because of my experiences with domestic violence – having been the victim of violent crime at the hands of a loved one – I have been somewhat jaded on the issue of marriage.

I’ve not been quiet on the issue either. Read More »

Parenting a Teen: LE Grows Up…But Into What?

Written on January 10, 2010 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life

“LE’s really growing up, isn’t he?”

A former colleague and mastermind buddy emailed me a week or so ago. She’d seen this video and commented on LE’s vertical growth, his deepening voice, and his overall physical maturity.
“Yes,” I countered in a reply…”but into what?”
The Metamorphosis of Attitude
Along with the metamorphosis of physical attributes that accompanies [...]

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Tags: family, parenting, pre-teens, single parenting, teens

Goal Setting for 2010

Written on January 3, 2010 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life

Have you set any goals for 2010?
Back when I taught a Student Success college course, the first lecture was always dedicated to the importance of goal setting.
I could easily summarize that first lecture by stating three important points:

Limit yourself to three important goals to work on this year.
Work on only your first goal for 90 [...]

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Tags: goals, habits, Leo Babauta, personal development

Solo-Dad & Newton’s Apple

Written on January 1, 2010 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life, Solo-Fun

Single dads look for love.
But finding it isn’t always easy.
It’s been said that the harder you look for something, the more difficult it is to find. I believe that. Looking for love is often just this way.
We scurry from bar to bar, club to club, date to date and always [...]

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Tags: dating, love, relationships

Thanksgiving Flashback – A Year Ago on Solo-Dad

Written on November 27, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life, Solo-Fun

Last year, LE was with his mom on Thanksgiving Day.
In an effort to prove that ’sitting around and moping while your kids are with the other parent’ isn’t the only alternative for solo-dads, I Twittered my day and then blogged about here it a few days later.
Here’s a snippet (read the full post here):
It reminded [...]

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Tags: Beach Fun, holidays, Thanksgiving

A Solo-Dad Birthday

Written on November 21, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life, Solo-Fun

Today is my 52nd birthday.
I was born at 8:00 a.m. in Savannah, Tennessee. In 1957 I was the first baby delivered via Caesarian section in Hardin County General Hospital.
I’m told my maternal grandfather raised hell and barged into the nursery because I was crying. In those days, dads didn’t witness their children’s birth [...]

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Tags: birthdays, giving back, seniors, Thanksgiving

Wanted: An Ex Who Respects My Flexibility

Written on November 18, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Solo-Dad Life

There are times when a single dad has no choice but to be flexible.
Like the other other night when my Ex calls to ask me if I could switch a scheduled overnight stay for the next night.
Normally not a big deal except that I’d made plans around the weekly overnight that LE has with his [...]

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Tags: communication, parenting, single, single parenting, single parents

Time for Another Solo-Dad Facelift

Written on November 15, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Featured Articles, Solo-Dad Life

Yes, we’re changing things around a bit.
Some blogs can go their merry way and never change a thing. Here at Solo-Dad, that’s just not the case. We need change.
No, we CRAVE change.
But not just change for change’s sake, but positive change; that which makes us better, leaner, stronger.
Yes, I know…it’s not universal health care…we’re [...]

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Tags: aesthetics, blogging, themes

Solo-Grand-Dad: Jessica Riley’s Debut

Written on November 7, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Featured Articles, Solo-Dad Life

Jessica Riley Anderson
Born November 5, 2009 Fairbanks, Alaska 11:02 a.m. AST
“Practically Perfect In Every Way…”
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It was midnight on November 5 when Bethany called me to tell me her water had broken and she and David (and her mom who’d flown up a few days before) were on their way to the hospital.
Needless to say, any [...]

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Tags: Bethany, grandparenting, Jessica

Meet ‘Buddy!’ – Solo-Dad’s Newest Addition

Written on October 23, 2009 by Solo-Dad in Featured Articles, Solo-Dad Life, Solo-Fun

Solo-Dog comes home!
On this past Sunday, LE and I drove to the East Bay city of Pleasanton, California to meet ‘Buddy.’
Buddy is a 14-month old black Labrador Retriever Pointer mix who needed a new home.
Since deciding to adopt a pet, LE and I have been looking for the perfect dog.
Of course perfection doesn’t exist outside [...]

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Tags: Buddy, Dogs, love, Pets